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You know, there are two kinds of wants/plans/dreams [Feb. 8th, 2008|03:02 pm]
Xiphias Gladius
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You can have two types of a dream. You can have the thing that you want, but you don't REALLY have any intention of pursuing. Oh, you may make tentative steps toward it, you may take classes in related fields, you may TELL people what you're planning, but, really, you're not going to do anything about it.

And that's fine.

And then there's the other kind: the one that you actually work to make happen.

They're both fine things to have. The first one is something that you have to keep your mind interested, to help your brain play. It's a perfectly good thing to have as a hobby, as a daydream. Nothing wrong with it.

The second type has a lot more risk with it, much more work, and a much, much greater chance of getting hurt.

Incidentally, one of the side-effects of depression, at least for me, was that I was ONLY able to have that first kind of dream, and I wasn't able to have the second kind until I got it treated. Living with Lis also helped with that: she comes from a family which almost EXCLUSIVELY uses that second kind of dream, so, if I'd say something like, "Boy, it'd be cool to fly and become president of the world," she'd start looking up rocket-powered hang-glider designs and work out practical ways to control government leaders.

My dream -- which has swapped from Class 1 to Class 2 for me -- is to create a bar or club or some such, using my bartending skills, to, in effect, make a real-world Callahan's Bar.

Currently, my steps are to try to move into positions of more authority and responsibility in the beverage industry, which would start with getting an actual bar, restaurant, or club job, rather than the current function work (which, don't get me wrong, I really enjoy, but I've learned about what I can from it).

And so I listen to other people's ideas, too.

So, at the moment, I know of two people in my friends circle who want to open up nightclubs. One of them seems to just like the idea and talks about it occasionally. The other has financing, a business plan, and a lease agreement.

I just poked the second person to see if he needs a beverage manager. . .

From: (Anonymous)
2008-02-08 08:40 pm (UTC)
That sounds like an excellent dream to me. Though I expect you'll get upset at me if I start throwing your glassware in the fireplace.

Good luck!
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[User Picture]From: ceo
2008-02-08 08:45 pm (UTC)
Oops, that was me.
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[User Picture]From: xiphias
2008-02-08 08:47 pm (UTC)
I've been pricing things out, and I think I CAN bring glassware in at under $.50/glass. Although I'd rather double prices and have the option cost a dollar -- It'd give more leeway.

My father has agreed to design a parabolic rear plate for a fireplace, if I get the thing together, to help reduce broken glass backsplash.

But that's years off at best.
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[User Picture]From: wcg
2008-02-08 08:54 pm (UTC)
If you do it, I'll be sure to come by and patronize you when I'm in Boston.

(Unless of course you plan to put it "just off Route 29A, way out in Suffolk County" on Long Island.)
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[User Picture]From: xiphias
2008-02-08 09:12 pm (UTC)
Hey, this is YEARS off. C'mon -- I need the experience of being a beverage manager in an establishment where someone ELSE is taking care of property taxes and zoning issues, before I take on property owner duties as well.

When I do get the thing started, though, public transporation access will be an important consideration.
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[User Picture]From: hfcougar
2008-02-09 02:58 am (UTC)
Well, Boston is in Suffolk County, and there is a bus route 29...
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[User Picture]From: greenstorm
2008-02-08 09:07 pm (UTC)
Mind if I link this?
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[User Picture]From: xiphias
2008-02-08 09:13 pm (UTC)
Don't see why not. What's interesting about it to you?
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[User Picture]From: greenstorm
2008-02-08 09:31 pm (UTC)
That distinction between class 1 and 2 dreams, and the relation to depression, is a statement of something I've been feeling lately. Thanks.
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[User Picture]From: greenlily
2008-02-08 09:10 pm (UTC)
*does a little Happy Dance*
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[User Picture]From: temima
2008-02-09 02:20 am (UTC)

Meanwhile, I am taking slow steps into turning type 1 dreams into type 2 dreams.
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[User Picture]From: beaq
2008-02-09 06:02 am (UTC)
I never even had a clue of what people MEANT about type 2 dreams before I got properly medicated. It wasn't even that I couldn't follow a dream and take steps to make it real. I had absolutely no idea what having a dream meant. I understood daydreams, but being able to follow a dream without being knocked down, stumbled into by blind impulses and leapt on by predatory quagmires, wasn't even part of my conception of the world as I could experience it.

IOW: go, you. If meds are making as much difference to you as they have to me, I think you can do this.
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[User Picture]From: rebmommy
2008-02-09 02:00 pm (UTC)
so good to hear your dreams and that you are taking steps to make them happen - when you become the beverage manager and bartender of a club or bar, I'll be there! - would be fun - but please have some good-tasting, interesting non-alcoholic choices - love you!
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[User Picture]From: theletterelle
2008-02-10 03:51 pm (UTC)
Hot damn. How cool are you? And hee, Lis totally = me. Rob speaks a wish, and I'm immediately working out how to make it happen.

My type 1 dream turned into a type 2 dream when I started researching Maryland sewer treatment regulations. I do think I can make it work. :)
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[User Picture]From: lolleeroberts
2009-02-06 04:13 pm (UTC)
Hey, if you ever doubt that there are people who love and I do mean LOVE the dirty, skanky, but oh-so-vital jobs, watch Dirty Jobs with Mike Rowe on the Discovery Channel. Don't get me wrong, I like Mike, and the show has its humorous moments, but what strikes me, over and over again, is how much the people who do those jobs every day care about them and want to do them well.
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[User Picture]From: fitfool
2008-02-12 01:06 pm (UTC)
Go you! May your pursuit inspire others to work towards their own Type 2 dreams.
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From: browngirl
2008-02-12 02:38 pm (UTC)
Knowing you is a glory and an inspiration, you know. *cheers you on*

Edited at 2008-02-12 02:39 pm (UTC)
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